Friday, May 07, 2010

To Attract Men, Try This...

The other day, I wrote to my newsletter subscribers about a woman who refused to believe she's too old for love. Sure enough, she found it.

Whatever your age, you can benefit from her winning philosophy:

"Put a smile on your face. Make someone else smile.Do what you love to do. Have fun."

This prompted a response from a reader who has a similar mindset. I've edited her wonderful letter for length, but here's the gist of it:

"You mentioned smiling, and I can't agree with you more. I have just
gotten out into the fishbowl so to speak after 33 years of marriage.
What I noticed in most of the bars/pubs/dance halls right away is
that many of the women had cat faces of jealousy or envy or
something on their expressions. It was as if they were on a mission,
and I had just entered their turf. Wow. I was not quite prepared for
that. They looked evil or almost vengeful, and I noticed that about
several women in several places.

Well, I just thought - I am going to enjoy myself for sure. I have been shocked by the wonderful compliments too as the men noticed. One said to me 'You put the icing on the cake in here tonight.'

A 25-year-old female told me, 'You are so hot,' not as a come-on but a statement of real honesty. Another gentleman called me a 'stellar woman' compared to the others in hereand thanked me for being there.

I was not at all flirtatious or dressed provocatively but just smiled, laughed and was very relaxed. They notice! Many women have come through some very hurtful situations, but if you let that keep you down, the situation is still controlling you.

Be a victor and rise above the ashes and love will find you. So get smiling and be happy, Women. It works!"

--A Reader

Thanks a million, Reader, for the illuminating letter.

It may sound too good to be true, but just by looking happy and being relaxed, this woman set herself apart from so many others who hope to meet the right man.

She hit the nail on the head when she mentioned the creepy looks she got from other females when she "invaded their turf."

The sad thing, for those women, is that it's not just the "invader" who notices the evil looks -- every man in three-mile radius notices, too.

And guess what? Jealousy and sour looks are not attractive. Insecurity is not attractive.

What's attractive?

Confidence. Feeling good about yourself. Knowing what you have to offer. A sense of humor. The ability to laugh and smile easily.

Happiness is attractive. Decide to be happy.

The prettiest girl in the world has nothing on the woman who feels good about herself and can make others feel good about themselves.

It's Friday! What are you going to do with your weekend?

Here's an idea:

Put a smile on your face. Make someone else smile. Do what you love to do. Have fun!


Shay Banks said...

I couldn't agree more! Something as simple as smiling makes you instantly attractive. If we open our eyes, good SINGLE men are literally right under our noses.


Dennis Miedema said...

I wholeheartedly agree with putting a frown upside down. And that's coming from a guy who's a dating caoch for men.

You see, not only does positivity attract other positivity, it also has to do with the actual conversation.

If you decide to be happy and smile, you're more open to talking.

In fact, if you decide that you ARE attractive you create attraction!

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Why?

You'll be more social, more confident, more relaxed and thinking from a let's see what happens and let's have fun perspective.

Men (and for all men reading this: women too!) are really into that.

You're simply way better and more fun to talk to than anyone else in the building.

So, by assuming attraction you create it. Ain't the human mind a wonderful thing? :-)

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

Cathy J said...

Thanks Terry for sharing this one.

Being happy is the secret to life! when you are happy you will attract many wonderful things.

Why do most of us get caught up with worrying about how to be happy? Just decide. If you think you don't know how, remember back to when you were little or look around at young children. If you ask a young child why they are happy, most likely they just say "I just am."

Choose to be happy today!

dateclass101 said...

to smile is good but it must bea genuine Smile.Sometimes smiling can give mix signals.Is it the signal of i want to be your friend or i want to be your lover wellu never know unless u take a bold step forward