If you'd like a peek at the work in progress, go to Dating Advice (Almost) Daily.
I hope to get back to answering your questions soon.
In the meantime, I found this informative video featuring Tara Parker-Pope, author of For Better: The Science of a Happy Marriage. It runs about five minutes, and it's worth it. Also, check out Parker-Pope's article for the New York Times here.
Bottom line: You get what you ask for.
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