tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.comments2023-07-03T05:28:29.391-04:00Dating Advice (Almost) DailyTerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comBlogger1014125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-19225368014775563712010-06-11T18:01:34.624-04:002010-06-11T18:01:34.624-04:00I agree with Terry's advice to plant the idea ...I agree with Terry's advice to plant the idea that the pursuit of money can also be a spiritually beneficial pursuit. It would be near impossible to change either of your ways of thinking without a deep knowledge of how and why people believe what they do. such a planting of the idea approach works because it can allow for him to come to your conclusions instead of telling him straight out that money = success or just saying you can be spiritual and have money!<br /><br />The idea to find a new class is probably the best solution to the question of how do i move on. You need to distance yourself from the situations that include both of you while continuing to live your life and do what you do.<br /><br />to add to what has already been suggested i would caution you agaisn't falling for a guy the same way you did with your non-existent relationship man. you may be prone to falling into a trap you set for yourself. holding on and waiting it out could be dangerous advice although not necessarily bad. i just feel as though you should be aware of what happened before and if it seems at all similar. <br /><br />I am curious how long you have known mr yoga. generally the role of the man is to pursue the woman; if he has real interest he would probably make a move within a month(probably sooner) of you two having hit it off. also consider that his high responsiveness to you, in terms of being happy and giving you some good signals could get confused with his mentality. he sounds like a very nice and loving person; what he shows you could just be how he is. in order to try and see if this could be true look at whether or not he has made direct efforts to pursue you.<br /><br />about my last point, it is also possible he would not pursue you because you are part of his class in which case you would have to pursue him because there may be rules that he is respecting in terms of a teacher not having a relationship with a student. it may be wise to talk to him about your feelings as another alternative.<br /><br />I hope things work out for you :)<br /><br />feel free to share any flaws in my advice so we can all learn.Adamhttp://whattotextagirl.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-12096034881390977442010-06-11T16:55:59.187-04:002010-06-11T16:55:59.187-04:00For spiritual people, it comes natural for them to...For spiritual people, it comes natural for them to ignore earthly possessions as this may get in the way of their spiritual world. I may not even be surprised if he didn't had sex for a long time. Its kind of different if he and Walk will be living in one roof, Walk's attraction with him will soon diminish when Walk herself start to look on her earthly possession and pleasure. Unless of course if Walk will also be with him on the spiritual world, then there will be no problem with their relationship.sugar daddyhttp://www.sugardaddydater.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-73195462391525656442010-06-11T09:00:16.655-04:002010-06-11T09:00:16.655-04:00Dear Terry,
Wow, I'm pleasantly surprised to ...Dear Terry,<br /><br />Wow, I'm pleasantly surprised to see the answer to my question.Thanks a lot for answering it.You are a life-saver !<br /><br />I wasn't doing physically well past 2 days, was just resting in bed.I'm doing good now, and seeing your post, I'm even more cheered up ! Thanks a bunch.<br /><br />I can't agree more with you on how money is like fire, and the diabetes association eg just hit the point on the nail.Great analogy, Terry.<br /><br />I'll try bringing this discussion sometime.Unfortunately he's the only yoga teacher in this area, I could afford right now.Others just squeeze like $40/hr, and I heard they're not that great as this guy, who doesn't even charge 1/6th of the amount.(He's not good with marketing himself,so people only know him through word of mouth).I'll bring that cash topic and see his views again.Else,I'd need to muster up strength to bid him good-bye in my heart.<br /><br />I can now see clearly.I never felt this way with any man before, may be that's why I got so confused.Thanks again, Terry.<br /><br />MargosOriginals, Thank you girl, for your valuable comment.I'll see if I can just let his thoughts keep me smiling instead of making me frustrated.If they're scorching me, then what option do I've ? I'll be learning the real yogic self-control perhaps.I'm here only for 3 more months,unless my company wants to extend my stay in this place.<br /><br />Since I can't afford another teacher in this small town,I don't know if I can give up yoga class just 'coz I've a crush on this guy.Yoga's really making my skin glow along with making me fight PMS, and believe it or not, I'm not wearing make-up anymore to work, and I still look beautiful ! I'd recommend it to all my girlfriends !Walknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-15331096665165340272010-06-10T11:16:46.348-04:002010-06-10T11:16:46.348-04:00Thanks, Delilah!
Margosoriginals, you make some e...Thanks, Delilah!<br /><br />Margosoriginals, you make some excellent points. Thank you.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-54717823939000728862010-06-09T19:16:27.547-04:002010-06-09T19:16:27.547-04:00Interesting post, and great advice!
-DelilahInteresting post, and great advice!<br /><br />-Delilahdating divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05634826148056884866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-85552452615568813682010-06-09T18:48:36.948-04:002010-06-09T18:48:36.948-04:00I agree with this advice to a point- but it sounds...I agree with this advice to a point- but it sounds like they have a great connection. She just got out of a bad relationship, and maybe a little flirting and attraction with a great guy is what she needs. I also think, that just as terry said he can learn from her that money can help do good, she can learn from him that money isn't the most important thing. Sometimes we meet the people we meet for a reason. I don't believe that we should live strictly by our own plans- I think sometimes we have to look at what life is giving us and use it to our advantage. I think she should just ride it out in the yoga class for a while, and not push for a dating relationship. Just see where it goes. If he wants to ask you out- he will ask you out. Then you can decide if you want to go out with him. Dating good men can be a huge confidence booster when you're single, it doesn't necissarily mean that it has to lead anywhere. I think she should be open to the idea of having fun with a great guy that she has a great connection with. Forget about the "relationship" aspect of it and just see what happens organically. Don't overthink, and most importantly don't let yourself think about HIM too much. Just enjoy the now, and just let the thought of this cute, incredibly attractive man be in the back of your mind as an added bonus.<br />I agree with Terry though, that you should find another Yoga class if you find that you cannot do this and it starts to cause you anxiety. Your happiness is the most important thing right now!<br />By the way Terry, I am an avid reader and I love your blog!Margosoriginalshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08622536657636118385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-43996795520660573332010-06-09T10:42:18.365-04:002010-06-09T10:42:18.365-04:00Adam, if you only knew how much you're helping...Adam, if you only knew how much you're helping women by sharing your experience.<br /><br />Thank you for the book recommendation, as well.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-78760461878223109112010-06-08T15:50:10.169-04:002010-06-08T15:50:10.169-04:00I have been in a similar situation. I lived for ma...I have been in a similar situation. I lived for many years wanting more than anything to have my perfect relationship. I would even settle for anything in between. I watch my friends and others around me all in relationships while I was alone.<br /><br />It took me way too long to figure out that everything Terry said to do is amazing advice. No one had ever told me what she has shared.<br /><br />I wanted it too much and it showed in ways i never knew stopped it from ever happening. Things like making myself too available and giving too much. Being so nice and being heartbroken when i got nothing in return. <br /><br />No one helped me on purpose and i didn't think there was anything wrong anyway. I thought i was just unlucky or unlikable or I just wasn't the right guy. The story of how i figured out why things didn't really go my way is a long one and it was over about a year so I won't share it. However after about a year of improving myself and my own life I am not only in a relationship now but i found a book that explained every aspect of the problem I had and how to solve it.<br /><br />I know you are not a guy but i believe this advice applies to anyone; the book is called No More Mr. Nice Guy and i think you will find it amazingly useful. You may not want to buy a book by the advice of someone on the internet but I found a link so you can download it for free :). http://www.megaupload.com/?d=4idxghim<br /><br />Terry if you haven't read this book i think you would find it interesting even though from reading your blog I can see you have a good understanding of its concepts.<br /><br />Hope this helps :DAdamhttp://whattotextagirl.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-33215130786652734312010-06-04T13:01:11.531-04:002010-06-04T13:01:11.531-04:00This is really great advice and I completely agree...This is really great advice and I completely agree. She was very smart to leave the relationship- if he's not comfortable with being with an older woman (and comes right out and says that) then of course she's going to feel uncomfortable and insecure with him! So many women would not take themselves out of that situation but she did, and I applaud her!Margosoriginalshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08622536657636118385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-3842592967786795282010-06-04T12:58:08.217-04:002010-06-04T12:58:08.217-04:00Yes, LiLu! You're absolutely right!
Adam, tha...Yes, LiLu! You're absolutely right!<br /><br />Adam, thanks so very much for sharing your experience. Many people will benefit from your excellent advice.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-69446473782390842942010-06-04T02:54:47.836-04:002010-06-04T02:54:47.836-04:00Terry has given some great advice. Be kind to your...Terry has given some great advice. Be kind to yourself, these kinds of situations can take time and practice to resolve.<br /><br />I have been through a similar kind of experience where i could not get her off my mind, it made me mad to think of her and i had things she had left still around my house.<br /><br />it took me a while before i got rid of the things she had left but it helped a great deal when i did. the moving furniture around idea sounds great too. your mind links together similar things, if you create a new time in your life by changing what your living space is like it will help to make new associations and make the old less frequent.<br /><br />Another aspect that really helped me move on was the fact that i was so mad at her and anytime i thought of her i got so mad. when we split up we did not talk at all, and it was as if our breakup was over nothing so we went from being very close with each other to nothing at all. i felt betrayed by this which made me angry and i was even more angry that there was nothing i could do to resolve it and she didn't know how i felt. so what i did was i spent some time every now and then to try to see the whole relationship through her eyes. after a great deal of time, 4-6 months or so before i was completely over it, when it came down to it i could feel the same way she felt and i could understand that our relationship had to end. we didn't have much in common and we weren't too compatible. once i could synchronize the events with my new found understanding i was no longer mad.<br /><br />my main point being that you can't just push it out of your head you have to come to a resolution. i thought over and over we didn't belong but ahhhhhhh i was so mad still! that anger had to go away and i had to be able to accept and understand what happened. <br /><br />It takes time, it takes practice. you will get there eventually :).<br /><br />I wish you good luck.<br /><br />Great post!Adamhttp://whattotextagirl.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-7566583974729988682010-06-03T14:25:28.266-04:002010-06-03T14:25:28.266-04:00I really like the furniture thing. Also, under no ...I really like the furniture thing. Also, under no circumstances should you listen to ANY song that reminds you of him!!rachaelgkinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18002691394373545956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-70145167657095581832010-06-01T17:22:57.593-04:002010-06-01T17:22:57.593-04:00It's never too late to find the love you'r...It's never too late to find the love you're looking for--or NOT looking for! Great words of advice above regarding loving who you are. Do the things you love and be the confident person that you want to be, and then allow someone into your life!Meetchahttp://www.Meetcha.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-22054957040450344072010-06-01T16:18:51.419-04:002010-06-01T16:18:51.419-04:00I hate it when people ask me about my non-existent...I hate it when people ask me about my non-existent dating life like I've committed some kind of crime by not hooking up with every guy I meet! I would love to find the guy of my dreams, but just because he isn't here yet doesn't mean I should be dating guys I'm not even that interested in. Great post!<br /><br />xx,<br /><br />Delilahdating divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05634826148056884866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-27806072204299216362010-06-01T16:16:20.715-04:002010-06-01T16:16:20.715-04:00The last part is golden: self-care is the most imp...The last part is golden: self-care is the most important piece of being satisfied and ultimately being a good partner. I don't think I have ever asked anyone if they are seeing someone. It's just never a question that occurs to me to ask.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-56826152448243222912010-05-29T04:44:35.088-04:002010-05-29T04:44:35.088-04:00Awesome Post. What you say is so true. I found out...Awesome Post. What you say is so true. I found out that the hard way. Keep up the good work!Janciehttp://www.datinggirlstips.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-25643539941311836792010-05-27T18:10:57.002-04:002010-05-27T18:10:57.002-04:00You did a good job in explaining the perspective o...You did a good job in explaining the perspective of the guy and the girl.<br /><br />It is really easy to fall into both sides of thinking and i have found that both the girl and guy will often have no clue what the other person was thinking to lead them to become upset or feel ok about it all.<br /><br />It may be a good idea not to judge a guy or girl who is victim to this too harshly as it is usually beyond a person's awareness and from what i have seen rarely finds its way into view as both sides keep their thinking to themselves.<br /><br />Another interesting note is that I have seen this with the roles reversed, so its not just a gender specific occurrence. In the particular case the guy wanted a relationship and the girl was certain she did not but still wanted to fool around and do somewhat relationshipy type things. It ended the same as described above just the roles reversed.<br /><br />Great post :)Adamhttp://howtomakeagirllaugh.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-80558666708744439102010-05-26T05:47:47.299-04:002010-05-26T05:47:47.299-04:00He could also be thinking of courtship. It is mor...He could also be thinking of courtship. It is more than Christian dating, but if that is the case, his intentions would be clear (with a view to marriage) and you would also have an accountability couple mentoring you.<br /><br />He could also be a new Christian and struggling with the concept of being celibate.<br /><br />Either way - I totally agree - ask him straight out.<br /><br />Best wishes.Cathy Jhttp://SmartLadyDating.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-27247660054296230302010-05-25T14:51:44.479-04:002010-05-25T14:51:44.479-04:00Adam, thanks for your perspective. I definitely do...Adam, thanks for your perspective. I definitely don't think there's any harm in asking Mr. Single where she stands.<br /><br />This bit is especially valuable:<br /><br />"I had a friend who told a girl he is not looking for anything serious or long term and they continued to see each other because she holds onto this idea that he will change his mind and he doesn't feel bad for having warned her."<br /><br />This stuff happens all the time, and it does always end badly. Thanks for the warning.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-78377451359742767492010-05-25T12:29:22.554-04:002010-05-25T12:29:22.554-04:00You did a very good analysis on the situation. You...You did a very good analysis on the situation. Your advice also top notch.<br /><br />Would it be ridiculous for What's the Deal to straight out just tell Mr. Single she has something she wants to talk about and then ask where he stands or what he wants or even just herself tells him that she would like something more?<br /><br />Some guys often think the girl knows exactly what he is thinking and what his long term plans are. This seems like such a reach to assume but it all has to do with little miss-communications. I had a friend who told a girl he is not looking for anything serious or long term and they continued to see each other because she holds onto this idea that he will change his mind and he doesn't feel bad for having warned her. Neither of them could see the obvious messy end.<br /><br />Hope everything goes well.Adamhttp://howtomakeagirllaugh.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-25129119439850423442010-05-23T19:41:20.564-04:002010-05-23T19:41:20.564-04:00You said it, Citygal. He certainly doesn't str...You said it, Citygal. He certainly doesn't strike me being worth the time it takes to log in to Facebook!Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-13409867039050901092010-05-21T15:37:36.966-04:002010-05-21T15:37:36.966-04:00I couldn't agree with you more. If I had to f...I couldn't agree with you more. If I had to find out that my bf was having a party via Facebook, then that pretty much sums up how he feels about you. Any man who can't engage in some face-to-face conversation about a party invite, or pretty much anything else isn't worth the time it takes you to log-in to FB.citygalhttp://www.citygalwrites.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-2349576086954560782010-05-21T09:15:41.206-04:002010-05-21T09:15:41.206-04:00I love your advice on this Terry. Many men are mor...I love your advice on this Terry. Many men are more on their self-examining contest. Can I get the girl? Am I smart enough to woo her? And once girl gets interested, their ego is satisfied. Oh Yes, I am good and can chase any girl. Now move on...same seems to be the case here. The Boss is just trying to test himself and is not really interested in any affair. So, just concentrate on your job and forget about that pest!Indian Online Datinghttp://www.datingdownunder.com.au/indian.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-22563245495707808592010-05-20T01:40:47.243-04:002010-05-20T01:40:47.243-04:00Hey that's a great advice for those seeking fo...Hey that's a great advice for those seeking for it....It takes a minute to find a special person. If you are in quest for a suitable mate .Go to this website that focuses on love, friendship, dating, and relationship; sign up, and start looking for your perfect match with a real-time chat facility.<br /><a href="http://www.jujeh.com/" rel="nofollow">persian online dating</a>Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00187853614723624007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-44181413648240040942010-05-19T14:18:30.859-04:002010-05-19T14:18:30.859-04:00Good advice, Singlutionary, especially the 'do...Good advice, Singlutionary, especially the 'don't put stock in it' part. These rubberband men are so tiresome!Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.com