Thursday, January 14, 2010

How to Instantly Turn Him Off

Aside from women who immediately slip cell phones on restaurant tables, men complain about women with chips on their shoulders.

Sure, a lot of of us have been burned (let's face it, a lot of men have been burned, too), and we don't want to get fooled again, but when we interrogate a guy about his past (as opposed to keeping our eyes and ears open and gently getting to know him over time), it's a total turn-off.

Ask yourself: How would you like it if you dated a man, and he went on about how "all women do this," and "well, that's the way you women are," and, "Why did you break up with your last boyfriend? Didn't he make enough money for you?"

Nobody likes to be treated like a user or foreign species. We're all human, so approach a new man as you would a potential new friend. Take the pressure off.

Does this mean that the guy isn't out for himself? Isn't a total creep? A player?

Of course not. He may very well be a creep and a player, but, again, keep your eyes and ears open. Do his actions match his words, for example? Is he checking out every woman who walks through the door?

No need to interrogate. Watch.

The last thing you want to do is turn off a loving, loyal, passionate, successful, fun guy because you've been burned before.

I mean, who hasn't been?