Tuesday, January 26, 2010

When a Man Says This...

Very often I receive emails from women who've just heard one of the following statements from a man they thought they had a future with:

"I love you, but I don't think we should see each other anymore."

or

"I have feelings for you, but I'm not ready for a relationship."

or (my personal favorite)

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

These and similar idiotic statements leave the hearer dumbfounded. I mean, what do they really mean? A woman is left to wander the planet trying to decipher exactly what the poor fool was trying to communicate.

She asks her friends. She asks her mother. She consults a psychic. She lies awake at night trying to figure it all out.

And she comes to this conclusion:

HE MUST REALLY LOVE ME! HE LOVES ME! AS LONG AS HE LOVES ME(AND HE DOES; HE SAID HE DID!), I KNOW I CAN MAKE HIM COME AROUND. HE LOVES ME!!! I CAN AND MUST CONVINCE HIM WE BELONG TOGETHER!

Here's the thing, though. She can't, you can't, and I can't convince anyone of anything. If a man says he can't see you for any reason, take him at his word and move on. Forget any proclamations of 'love' or 'feelings' or 'wonderful times' together.

Move on.

Now, if you're telling yourself this kind of thing always happens to you, you're born under a bad sign, you're unlucky in love, I suggest you look at it this way:

The guy did you a favor (in a cowardly and unbecoming way). He's not for you. Be open to the very real possibility that a man who knows what he wants (you) is out there, hoping to meet you, and ready to do whatever it takes to love you and make you happy.

Say:

I was born under a very good sign.

Things happen for a reason.

I am lucky in love.

And repeat these statements often. Ask yourself, how does it feel to be lucky in love, for instance? How would you act? How would you think? How would you carry yourself?

Guess what? The more you say it and feel it, the sooner your subconscious will accept it and go to work on attracting the love you want and deserve.

(For more on this vitally important subject, check out Keysha Whitaker's piece on affirmations by clicking here.

Now, go for it. Because why would you ever accept anything less?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

This post is so helpful and concise. Personally this is a very timely piece for me as well! Thank you so much, Terry. Your advice is always appreciated.

Terry said...

Thsnks for writing and letting me know, Anonymous. I do appreciate it.