Monday, November 09, 2009

When a Woman Earns More, Her Man Aims to Please

Brian Alexander, the author of America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction, details his findings about sex and economics. He writes:
"As more and more women in the U.S. out earn the men in their lives, or become the sole breadwinners, men are trying to figure out how they fit into the relationship, including in the bedroom."

Alexander offers the example of a corrections officer who is married to an oncology nurse:

"...since she brings home much of the bacon, he wants to make sure he’s offering her some perks too. He leaves affectionate notes around the house for her and tries to keep the house tidy. And he wants to make sure he shines in one special area.

Since she is 'handling certain areas of the relationship' like making most of the money, he said, “you’ve got to handle your business.” By “business,” Hayes means sex. 'You’ve got to be creative. You’ve got to be good!'"

Clearly, we females must stop being afraid of success.

For the rest of the story, click here.


Pastrami said...

So, if the man makes more, he can neglect his wife? He doesn't have to try and everything will stay fine?

Terry said...

No, but my inbox currently houses an email from a woman who's with a successful man who's neglecting the hell out of her.

Busy man too busy for his wife is all too common. It may look fine, but it doesn't "stay fine."

Pilette said...

That's a tough one. One part of me wants a man who makes a a good living and is successful, another wants someone who shows his affection. Why can't we have both? I am a woman who makes a good living and am caring and affectionate. Why does it have to be either/or? I believe I deserve the whole package

Terry said...

You do deserve the whole package. Who says you have to choose between an affectionate man and a successful one?

Busy man too busy or his wife may be common, but many successful men want to be good husbands, too. Hold out for a man who will make your happiness a priority.