Attracting a Man Who Actually Makes You Happy

"Everything's in the mind. That's where it all starts. Knowing what you want is the first step toward getting it."

-Mae West

Do you know what you want in a man? Do you know that it matters? If you want to meet a guy who'll leave the last meatball you dated in the dust, ask yourself a few questions.

First: What don't you want in a man? Write it down.

Second: Turn it around. Write down an opposite quality for each of the ones you don't want. Now you know what you do want.

The next time--or the next few times-- you go out with a guy, you'll have a checklist to help you determine whether he's worth your while. (No need to break it out over dinner, mind you.) The key is to date only guys who are capable of a joyous relationship. Give 'em a chance and then decide.

It's funny. If you stop dating men who aren't worth your time, eventually the ones who are will start showing up.

It happened to me.