Tuesday, August 29, 2006

The World Is Full of Wonderful Men. I Swear.

She sounds like one of those women who hates other women, but she does make a provocative point about how to treat a man.

If you have an opinion, I'd love to hear it.


Anonymous said...

I don't have a comment, but I do have a question for you. Every dating expert known to man (secular and religious) has said that the woman should not "make the first move" or tell the man (in words) that she's interested in him (telling him with body language and eye contact is considered acceptable). I guess this is so that the woman doesn't seem desperate, throwing herself at the man's feet, which would cause him to despise her (no one likes a doormat).

My question: what if the woman tells the man that she's interested in him with dignity; not throwing herself at his feet, but telling him calmly and collectedly how she feels, and why (in a very very small nutshell). What if she tells him that she's sharing this with him, and that she doesn't expect anything from him; she just wants him to know.

I would appreciate any answer you could give me.

Terry said...

You know, I don't see anything wrong with being honest about your feelings. I've heard time and time again from men who appreciated it when a woman showed interest in them. It's 2006; what's the big deal?

I think if you do express interest in the calm and dignified (and probably attractive) way you describe, it's a good thing.

Of course, he'll either return your interest, or he won't. The biggest risk here is rejection, but it's better to know now what the guy's thinking than wondering about it for the rest of your life.

If your revelation results in a date, great. If it results in rejection (or some weird reaction on the guy's part), you can back away with the lovely dignity you came in with.

Wave to him from a distance and move on to better things.

Anonymous said...

Thanks so much for your prompt answer!
I'm still debating what to do.
Should I end up telling him, I'll let you know how it goes.

Housing Boom Gone Bust said...

I'll say - you go grl!