Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Emailing to Get a Man's Attention

Hi, Terry-

I notice in that you stress on "not calling a guy" if he himself promises to call...I think you're right about that.

But I have to be honest that I am unsure about whether or not to make contact with a guy even if it's just to ask a question. I mean I am seeing someone new, and this morning I got this cute little email someone sent, and I thought this would be something nice to send to him, so I picked up the phone to call him and ask him for his email address...and then I thought, "You know what? I'd better not".

I used to have no problem picking up the phone if I wanted to talk to a guy....but men are fickle and I think I need to keep my guard up this time...I am 32 and I think I've learned enough not to give them too much attention....What do you think!?

-Curious



Hi, Curious-

I think your instincts are right.

It's tempting to pass on a cute email to a guy or call him to ask a question, but if he said he'll contact you, you're better off waiting to see if his word is any good.

If he said he'd contact you, he should contact you. Then you can ask a casual question, but even then I wouldn't ask him for his email address. What's the point? You want to go out with the guy, not send him jokes.

I'm not one of these people who believes in sitting by the phone and letting the guy call all the shots. However, I do believe that men want a prize in a woman, just as women want a prize in a man.

Don't make attempts to keep yourself on this particular guy's radar. Figure that if he's worth your time, he's going to make sure you know it.

Terry

2 comments:

sleepy J said...

"Figure that if he's worth your time, he's going to make sure you know it."

Great advice! Another analogy I like to keep handy is that of meeting new friends. For instance, let's say you meet a really cool girl at a party who you think has serious friend potential. Would you call her to pass on a cute email, out of the blue, without any purpose? Probably not, because you wouldn't want to seem like some stalker/weirdo, right? I think similar rules apply to dating someone new.

Terry said...

The 'cool girl with friend potential' analogy is dead-on, Sleepy J!