Monday, February 11, 2008

Settling for Mr. Good Enough



Once you get into your mid-30s, Atlantic writer Lori Gottlieb maintains that you should consider settling for a man who's less than what you really want. Kailen Rosenberg, a relationship expert, disagrees.

Watch the clip and decide for yourself.

5 comments:

Claudia said...

Hi Terry;

Well I think we all confirm our own realities. If women keep thinking that all the good men have been taken or are gay well then that's what they will get. The human mind is a strange thing and always needs to be right!

For me it's not good enough to settle for Mr. Good Enough. I'd rather be alone than be with a man just because society believes I should be matched up.

The truth is I'm with a man where the chemistry didn't kick in at first.It depends on what people mean by chemistry. Normally they think it has to be a sizzling thing. Well in my case my man had the qualities I was looking for and it turned out that the chemistry was only revealed in bed. So.

I've been around the block too - had the wimps and the dangerous drop dead gorgeous players to violent.

I know without a doubt that if my man wanted a separation i would be sad but i would not lay down and think oh my god who would want me now?

I flirt with men daily and besides I love my cat - he is such a gorgeous beast!

Besides I was over 30 when my twins surfaced into my reality. Their father is dead and that never stopped me from meeting fab men.

I say never settle for any body other than Mr. Right!

Reesha said...

It's so hard when you are in your mid-thirties, live in a small town and have to choose between either pursuing a career that you love or deciding that you had better move to where the available men are so that you can finally settle down and have kids before your eggs dry up and you're too old and tired to raise a family!
That's the decision I am faced with every day. It's lonely and I bet the single men in my town don't have to deal with this kind of grief!

Reesha said...

It's so hard when you are in your mid-thirties, live in a small town and have to choose between either pursuing a career that you love or deciding that you had better move to where the available men are so that you can finally settle down and have kids before your eggs dry up and you're too old and tired to raise a family!
That's the decision I am faced with every day. It's lonely and I bet the single men in my town don't have to deal with this kind of grief!

Sassy said...

Settling was the topic of conversation with my two best friends last Saturday night as we sipped drinks a local watering hole. (too smoky--probably won't go back!)

Two of us thought that we should wait for the whole package...zing and all. One thought that there are good guys out there and the zing doesn't last forever. Interesting topic. I agree with not settling. My positive affirmation says there's someone great out there for me, zing and all!

Alison said...

This video is such a perfect snapshot! The woman who voiced her opinion to settle before it's too late is only speaking from her personal experience. Her viewpoint is solely based on her subconscious beliefs and what she has personally experienced in life. It is unfortunate that she is offering this poor advice to a smart, educated audience!

The matchmaker is right - there is someone out there for all of us and one should never compromise their needs just to get married. It IS lonely being in a relationship with someone that you don't love or that doesn't satisfy you at a level you need.

Once single woman discover the peace within they will attract a world of men that are smart, attractive, fun, attentive and loving. Letting go of the negative beliefs will open up positive opportunities!