Friday, February 22, 2008

How to Tell if He Likes You (Really)

Reading a guy's body language can be helpful (and entertaining) in the very beginning, but trying to read a guy's mind is a different story.

Don't do it.

If he says he'll call and doesn't, don't waste a single minute wondering why. If he says he likes you and then disappears, he's not worth your time. If he says he doesn't want a relationship, and then sticks his tongue in your mouth, he's not conflicted about his feelings.

He's a creep.

A man worth dating matches his words with his actions. If you're lying awake fretting about what he meant when he said one thing but did another, you're losing good sleep over a big fat zero.

You don't need any guy that badly.

If you're going to get involved with a man, he should never leave you in doubt about his feelings. He will value you. More important, you'll know it. If he says he'll call, he'll call. If he's going to be late, he'll apologize. If he wants a relationship, he'll say so. He won't chance losing a good thing.

But, you're thinking, maybe he's shy. Maybe he doesn't know how to express his feelings.

Shy men exist, sure, but by the time a man is an adult, he can usually figure out how to get what he wants. If he wants a promotion, he goes for it. If he wants a new pair of shoes, he goes out and buys them. If he wants a sandwich, he makes it.

If he wants to get to know a particular woman, he makes it happen.

And if he can't manage that much, do yourself a favor. Forget him. Hold out for a better man.


Anonymous said...


I just wanted to say that I really enjoy reading your advice and think you are awesome! It is so refreshing to hear it put so candidly and so real. Your manner of telling it like it is helps people to look it in the eye and face reality and that is what people need. Keep up the great job! You help much more than you could ever know!


Anonymous said...

This is Awesome!

Well said Terry, couldn't put it better than you did!


Keep warm idol!

Enjoy your weekend!

Your student. ^_^

Anonymous said...

This is awesome!

Terry, well-said and no 1 can put it better than you did!

Good reminder that we all deserve quality grown-up men who know what they want in a partner!

Keep warm dear idol.


Terry said...

Thanks to both of you for writing. You made my day.

Susan at One-Woman Show said...

Could we get this post laminated and give it out to teenage girls everywhere -- and adults? I wish, wish, wish I had received this straight talk when I was younger. Maybe then it wouldn't have taken so long for this to sink in...and for me to have spent so much time and heartfelt energy "wondering". But it's never too late! Well-said, T.

Terry said...

Thanks, Susan. It took me way too long to get it myself!