The new Irish Spring commercial advises men, "Smell like you're worth exploring."
This ad campaign gets my vote for the smartest and funniest since Guinness decided to turn the month of March into St. Patrick's Day Season.
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Friday, March 16, 2007
Fatigue Be Gone
I've been on Viveca-Stone Berry's program for two weeks now and have lost three pounds with minimal effort.
I've integrated the changes she recommends into my diet, and I actually enjoy her recipe for Blueberry Oatmeal Energize. She suggests taking a magnesium supplement, as well. I bought the stuff, but I keep forgetting to take it.
Goal For Week: Remember to take magnesium supplement.
My doctor called to reschedule our appointment, so I won't see her until the 10th. When I do, I hope to see an improvement in my triglycerides and LDL!
As for energy, well, I'm crackling with creative ideas. I've started a new short story, and I wrote a speech I'm due to give in a couple of weeks.
I continue to take my afternoon nap, but I'm finding that I'm not able to fall asleep every time.
I've integrated the changes she recommends into my diet, and I actually enjoy her recipe for Blueberry Oatmeal Energize. She suggests taking a magnesium supplement, as well. I bought the stuff, but I keep forgetting to take it.
Goal For Week: Remember to take magnesium supplement.
My doctor called to reschedule our appointment, so I won't see her until the 10th. When I do, I hope to see an improvement in my triglycerides and LDL!
As for energy, well, I'm crackling with creative ideas. I've started a new short story, and I wrote a speech I'm due to give in a couple of weeks.
I continue to take my afternoon nap, but I'm finding that I'm not able to fall asleep every time.
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Women As Pieces of Meat
The April issue of Vanity Fair came in the mail the other day. My 10-year-old objected strenuously to the cover (which features James Gandolfini and David Chase of The Sopranos) and suggested I cancel our subscription.
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Dixie Chicks Shut up and Sing Trailer
Child One and I watched this movie last night and loved it. It's a shame the Dixie Chicks had to go to England to exercise their freedom of speech.
Saturday, March 10, 2007
'The Best Week Ever' Takes On The Law of Attraction
Watched Best Week Ever on VH1 last night. I just love that show (it repeats today at 11AM ET and 6:30PM ET).
Last night's episode included commentaries on Ann Coulter's attack on John Edwards, Jared Leto's concert injury, and a hilarious bit on The Secret, the DVD about The Law of Attraction that's really very worthwhile, despite what The New York Times and Dr. Gail from Today say about it.
With that in mind, here's a delightful quote from the late Norman Vincent Peale in his life-changing book, The Power of Positive Thinking:
"To change your circumstances, first start thinking differently. Do not passively accept unsatisfactory circumstances, but form a picture in your mind of circumstances as they should be. Hold that picture, develop it firmly in all details, believe in it, pray about it, work at it, and you can actualize it according to your mental image emphasized in your positive thinking."
There's a stark difference between wishful thinking and positive thinking. Wishful thinking requires virtually no effort. Positive thinking requires concentrated effort. Wishful thinking will get you nowhere, but positive thinking--or using The Law of Attraction--will get you everywhere.
So, if there's a guy you like who you think is out of your league, picture yourself being in his league. Picture yourself in his company. Picture him enjoying your company.
Now, if he's dating, married, or engaged to someone else, clearly you should not employ the Law of Attraction to break up his relationship. That would be evil.
But, if the guy's single, he's fair game. Use The Law of Attraction to open opportunities for you to get to know him better. Use it to become the attractive, fun, kind, charismatic person you want to be.
Last night's episode included commentaries on Ann Coulter's attack on John Edwards, Jared Leto's concert injury, and a hilarious bit on The Secret, the DVD about The Law of Attraction that's really very worthwhile, despite what The New York Times and Dr. Gail from Today say about it.
With that in mind, here's a delightful quote from the late Norman Vincent Peale in his life-changing book, The Power of Positive Thinking:
"To change your circumstances, first start thinking differently. Do not passively accept unsatisfactory circumstances, but form a picture in your mind of circumstances as they should be. Hold that picture, develop it firmly in all details, believe in it, pray about it, work at it, and you can actualize it according to your mental image emphasized in your positive thinking."
There's a stark difference between wishful thinking and positive thinking. Wishful thinking requires virtually no effort. Positive thinking requires concentrated effort. Wishful thinking will get you nowhere, but positive thinking--or using The Law of Attraction--will get you everywhere.
So, if there's a guy you like who you think is out of your league, picture yourself being in his league. Picture yourself in his company. Picture him enjoying your company.
Now, if he's dating, married, or engaged to someone else, clearly you should not employ the Law of Attraction to break up his relationship. That would be evil.
But, if the guy's single, he's fair game. Use The Law of Attraction to open opportunities for you to get to know him better. Use it to become the attractive, fun, kind, charismatic person you want to be.
Friday, March 09, 2007
Addiction to Blonde
Why does NBC's Natalie Morales seem to get blonder every morning? She looked gorgeous the way she used to be, which would be brunette. Back off, Producers: The woman's starting to look like tinsel.
I am the lone non-blonde from a family of natural blondes. I can tell a hairdresser doesn't have my best interests at heart when he suggests I go blonde, that I have the perfect "base color" for it, and other nonsense.
Once you go blonde, it's hard to go back, and it requires frequent and expensive maintenance. So, I liken certain hairdressers to crack dealers; once they hook you, you become a new stream of income.
I recently glimpsed a long line of women with gold tresses, all flat-ironed and exactly the same shade, waiting for coffee in a Manhattan deli. I really dislike it when attractive women ruin their looks by joining the Blonde Brigade. I've seen redheads with pink complexions transformed into tomato faces with yellow hair, and I've seen olive-skinned beauties turned beige and boring.
Since I do come from a family of blondes, I hate blonde jokes. Hate them. But, because my family was born that way, fair hair suits them.
As for me, if God wanted me to be a blonde, He would have made me one.
I am the lone non-blonde from a family of natural blondes. I can tell a hairdresser doesn't have my best interests at heart when he suggests I go blonde, that I have the perfect "base color" for it, and other nonsense.
Once you go blonde, it's hard to go back, and it requires frequent and expensive maintenance. So, I liken certain hairdressers to crack dealers; once they hook you, you become a new stream of income.
I recently glimpsed a long line of women with gold tresses, all flat-ironed and exactly the same shade, waiting for coffee in a Manhattan deli. I really dislike it when attractive women ruin their looks by joining the Blonde Brigade. I've seen redheads with pink complexions transformed into tomato faces with yellow hair, and I've seen olive-skinned beauties turned beige and boring.
Since I do come from a family of blondes, I hate blonde jokes. Hate them. But, because my family was born that way, fair hair suits them.
As for me, if God wanted me to be a blonde, He would have made me one.
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
Hooking Up and the Shattering Revelation That Women Enjoy Sex
Right now, media heads are babbling again about how casual sex damages women's bodies, psyches, and their potential to achieve long-term relationships.
It's always about the women. The idea that women are sexual creatures who enjoy sex for its own sake continues to freak out American society even in 2007. As Amber Madison, the author of Hooking Up, rightly pointed out on Today on Monday, many young women are afraid to get into relationships. They've been brought up to believe that men don't want them, so why should they make themselves vulnerable?
They disconnect sex from emotion, which is what a portion of the male sex has done for eons. Society has long assumed (or wanted to assume) that only men are capable of this, but that's dead wrong.
That said, using another human being as your own personal disposable sex toy may have short-term benefits. But whether you're a man or a woman, it's not usually satisfying in the long run.
Take my old friend. We'll call him Bill.
He mastered the art of the hook-up and hardly ever went home alone. We marveled at him. One night, I asked him his secret. He told me, "Hang around, and I'll show you."
His technique involved learning the interests of the evening's potential bedmate. He'd approach her, get her talking, and before long she'd reveal her undying love for The Beatles, The Mets, flyfishing, or whatever.
A newspaper reporter, Bill knew a little about a lot of things and could discuss her passion with the right dose of enthusiasm. Within an hour, she'd found a kindred spirit, and off she went to his bed.
In one case, the woman sent Bill flowers the next day.
But, he later told me that his encounters ultimately left him feeling "empty." He said, "You'd be surprised, Terry, but the sex is never that good, either."
It's always about the women. The idea that women are sexual creatures who enjoy sex for its own sake continues to freak out American society even in 2007. As Amber Madison, the author of Hooking Up, rightly pointed out on Today on Monday, many young women are afraid to get into relationships. They've been brought up to believe that men don't want them, so why should they make themselves vulnerable?
They disconnect sex from emotion, which is what a portion of the male sex has done for eons. Society has long assumed (or wanted to assume) that only men are capable of this, but that's dead wrong.
That said, using another human being as your own personal disposable sex toy may have short-term benefits. But whether you're a man or a woman, it's not usually satisfying in the long run.
Take my old friend. We'll call him Bill.
He mastered the art of the hook-up and hardly ever went home alone. We marveled at him. One night, I asked him his secret. He told me, "Hang around, and I'll show you."
His technique involved learning the interests of the evening's potential bedmate. He'd approach her, get her talking, and before long she'd reveal her undying love for The Beatles, The Mets, flyfishing, or whatever.
A newspaper reporter, Bill knew a little about a lot of things and could discuss her passion with the right dose of enthusiasm. Within an hour, she'd found a kindred spirit, and off she went to his bed.
In one case, the woman sent Bill flowers the next day.
But, he later told me that his encounters ultimately left him feeling "empty." He said, "You'd be surprised, Terry, but the sex is never that good, either."
Monday, March 05, 2007
How to Spot and Spurn a Dating Fool
Today reconfigured their website, so the link I referred to in the previous post isn't good, anymore. I can't seem to find the clip at the new url, either.
The New York Times ran a review of a seriously disturbing dating book for men yesterday. The book is called The Method, and it's written by a man who very bravely calls himself "Mystery."
According to The Times, the book advises losers--uh, I mean, men--to:
"Approach a group of women, having identified one of them as your target. Flirt with her friends. When she tries to speak, teasingly put her down (“negging”). After a bit, include her, and throw her a bone or two. [Mystery] calls these “IOI’s” — Indicators of Interest. But then, confuse her with a putdown or two — “IOD’s” (Indicators of Disinterest). If possible, enlist a “pivot” (a female conspirator) to make her jealous. Once you have her attention, subject her to rehearsed patter, then “bounce” her to another location to build “comfort.” Soon, you will be able to bounce her to your love lair."
Men who like, trust, and understand women never try this crap. The Method will become the bible for poor wankers who stay up past their bedtimes to watch Girls Gone Wild commercials on basic cable.
Attract a man who likes, trusts, and understands women.
The New York Times ran a review of a seriously disturbing dating book for men yesterday. The book is called The Method, and it's written by a man who very bravely calls himself "Mystery."
According to The Times, the book advises losers--uh, I mean, men--to:
"Approach a group of women, having identified one of them as your target. Flirt with her friends. When she tries to speak, teasingly put her down (“negging”). After a bit, include her, and throw her a bone or two. [Mystery] calls these “IOI’s” — Indicators of Interest. But then, confuse her with a putdown or two — “IOD’s” (Indicators of Disinterest). If possible, enlist a “pivot” (a female conspirator) to make her jealous. Once you have her attention, subject her to rehearsed patter, then “bounce” her to another location to build “comfort.” Soon, you will be able to bounce her to your love lair."
Men who like, trust, and understand women never try this crap. The Method will become the bible for poor wankers who stay up past their bedtimes to watch Girls Gone Wild commercials on basic cable.
Attract a man who likes, trusts, and understands women.
Saturday, March 03, 2007
Women Fear Commitment
Today tackles the subject and makes sense.
Click Today Show, then scroll down and click "Why Women Fear Commitment." You'll have to sit through a 30-second spot for PerfectMatch.com, but it's worth it.
The report is refreshing in comparison to the current issue of Cosmopolitan, which screams pathetically: "Weird Male Behavior Decoded!" and "Things He Thinks During the Deed That You Really, Really Need to Know!"
Who has time for such nonsense?
Attract a man who's worthy of you for a change.
Click Today Show, then scroll down and click "Why Women Fear Commitment." You'll have to sit through a 30-second spot for PerfectMatch.com, but it's worth it.
The report is refreshing in comparison to the current issue of Cosmopolitan, which screams pathetically: "Weird Male Behavior Decoded!" and "Things He Thinks During the Deed That You Really, Really Need to Know!"
Who has time for such nonsense?
Attract a man who's worthy of you for a change.
Thursday, March 01, 2007
Fatigue Be Gone
Like most people, I could use a bit more energy during the day (I've suffered from the 3PM slump since high school). I eat pretty well, exercise four to five days a week (nothing Herculean, mind you; 40 minutes on the treadmill one day and Winsor Pilates the next).
My friend and colleague, Viveca Stone-Berry, suffered from serious fatigue. She sought medical attention, did tons of research, and found relief. She's crackling like a box of Pop Rocks these days and decided to write a how-to book to help other women reclaim their fire.
I got hold of her ebook, Fatigue Be Gone!, and have started her program. Step One meant making an appointment with my internist/cardiologist, something I should have done last August. I'll see her on March 21st.
I've taken care of Viveca's Steps Two and Three, too, which were no big deal. I just had to answer a series of 'yes' or 'no' questions to get a clear picture of my current situation, so that I'll have something to compare it to three weeks from now when I go to the doctor.
Other steps include changing lifestyle habits. Except for avoiding M.D.s, I'm always up for learning new methods to improve my health. Will keep you posted.
My friend and colleague, Viveca Stone-Berry, suffered from serious fatigue. She sought medical attention, did tons of research, and found relief. She's crackling like a box of Pop Rocks these days and decided to write a how-to book to help other women reclaim their fire.
I got hold of her ebook, Fatigue Be Gone!, and have started her program. Step One meant making an appointment with my internist/cardiologist, something I should have done last August. I'll see her on March 21st.
I've taken care of Viveca's Steps Two and Three, too, which were no big deal. I just had to answer a series of 'yes' or 'no' questions to get a clear picture of my current situation, so that I'll have something to compare it to three weeks from now when I go to the doctor.
Other steps include changing lifestyle habits. Except for avoiding M.D.s, I'm always up for learning new methods to improve my health. Will keep you posted.
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Dating and Jesus In a Box
In an earlier post, I declared that I do not believe James Cameron's claim that he has Jesus' bones in a box, and apparently I'm not alone. A guy named Bruce Feiler, who's not even a Christian, doesn't buy it, either. An expert on the bible and archaeology, he posted his feelings today at the blog at the Huffington Post.
What exactly does Jesus being in a box have to do with dating?
Over the past few days, the media have tried to disprove Christianity, and then The Law of Attraction. Both require faith. I don't suggest you need to be a Christian to benefit from The Law of Attraction, but you certainly do need faith. And if you want to attract a thrilling relationship, you need it, as well.
Check out these verses from the New Testament:
"According to your faith, be it unto you."-Matthew 9:29
"If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth."- Mark 9:23
"If God be for us, who can be against us?"-Romans 8:31
Look, if you don't believe there's a decent soul for you to love who's going to love you back and make you happy for the rest of your life, guess what? You're right. And if you believe there is such a person, you're right. According to your faith, be it unto you.
Do you perform better (in a job or behind the wheel of a car, for instance) when you have faith in yourself, or when you don't? Do people respond to you more when you have faith that you're attractive, or when you feel ugly?
Have faith in what you want (presumably a faithful, successful, healthy, fun man), not in what you don't want (that all men cheat, all the good ones are dead or married, etc.).
I, for one, have faith that nobody's ever going to find Jesus in a box.
Attract a man who's worthy of you for a change.
What exactly does Jesus being in a box have to do with dating?
Over the past few days, the media have tried to disprove Christianity, and then The Law of Attraction. Both require faith. I don't suggest you need to be a Christian to benefit from The Law of Attraction, but you certainly do need faith. And if you want to attract a thrilling relationship, you need it, as well.
Check out these verses from the New Testament:
"According to your faith, be it unto you."-Matthew 9:29
"If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth."- Mark 9:23
"If God be for us, who can be against us?"-Romans 8:31
Look, if you don't believe there's a decent soul for you to love who's going to love you back and make you happy for the rest of your life, guess what? You're right. And if you believe there is such a person, you're right. According to your faith, be it unto you.
Do you perform better (in a job or behind the wheel of a car, for instance) when you have faith in yourself, or when you don't? Do people respond to you more when you have faith that you're attractive, or when you feel ugly?
Have faith in what you want (presumably a faithful, successful, healthy, fun man), not in what you don't want (that all men cheat, all the good ones are dead or married, etc.).
I, for one, have faith that nobody's ever going to find Jesus in a box.
Attract a man who's worthy of you for a change.
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Today and Me and The Secret
The Today segment on The Secret featured James Arthur Ray, one of the personalities from the DVD, and Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist and frequent Today contributor.
Gail pretty much scoffed at everything James had to say (she rolled her eyes at one point). He continued to make his points politely.
Matt Lauer noted that The Secret creator, Rhonda Byrne, had been invited to participate but backed out at the last minute. We were left to draw our own conclusions as to why. The New York Times reported on Sunday that Byrne and two contributors from the original DVD, Esther and Jerry Hicks (of abrahamhicks.com), have since parted ways.
Today reported that The Secret is nothing new, and it's not. People (Norman Vincent Peale, Catherine Ponder, Frances Scovel Shinn, Robert Collier, Joseph Murphy, and many others) have written about it for decades. I know a woman who joined the sales program at one of the major brokerage firms on Wall Street, and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill was required reading.
The bottom line for me is this: Many years ago when I started reading these authors, a woman told me that she'd let her psychiatrist know of my burgeoning interest in The Law of Attraction. She said he laughed his head off.
"Tell your friend all she's doing is making somebody else rich," he said.
At the time, I was in a rotten job, living in my parents' basement, and had just come off a series of embarrassingly bad relationships. Today, I'm happily married, I live in my own lovely home, and I'm the mother of two children I hope will leave this world better than they found it. I love my work so much I lose all sense of time.
The woman in psychotherapy is still in psychotherapy. She probably paid for her doctor's house in The Hamptons.
Look, if you need psychiatric help, by all means get it. If you need medical attention, get it. But please don't dismiss the power of knowing what you want and believing you can have it.
Gail pretty much scoffed at everything James had to say (she rolled her eyes at one point). He continued to make his points politely.
Matt Lauer noted that The Secret creator, Rhonda Byrne, had been invited to participate but backed out at the last minute. We were left to draw our own conclusions as to why. The New York Times reported on Sunday that Byrne and two contributors from the original DVD, Esther and Jerry Hicks (of abrahamhicks.com), have since parted ways.
Today reported that The Secret is nothing new, and it's not. People (Norman Vincent Peale, Catherine Ponder, Frances Scovel Shinn, Robert Collier, Joseph Murphy, and many others) have written about it for decades. I know a woman who joined the sales program at one of the major brokerage firms on Wall Street, and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill was required reading.
The bottom line for me is this: Many years ago when I started reading these authors, a woman told me that she'd let her psychiatrist know of my burgeoning interest in The Law of Attraction. She said he laughed his head off.
"Tell your friend all she's doing is making somebody else rich," he said.
At the time, I was in a rotten job, living in my parents' basement, and had just come off a series of embarrassingly bad relationships. Today, I'm happily married, I live in my own lovely home, and I'm the mother of two children I hope will leave this world better than they found it. I love my work so much I lose all sense of time.
The woman in psychotherapy is still in psychotherapy. She probably paid for her doctor's house in The Hamptons.
Look, if you need psychiatric help, by all means get it. If you need medical attention, get it. But please don't dismiss the power of knowing what you want and believing you can have it.
Correction About Helen Mirren
I misquoted her in my post from February 26th. She didn't hold her Oscar aloft and exclaim, "This is the Queen!" She said, "I give you the Queen!"
I still don't get it.
Attract a man who's worthy of you for a change.
I still don't get it.
Attract a man who's worthy of you for a change.
The Truth About the The Secret?
Today is going to do a story on The Secret this morning. Since they revealed yesterday that Jesus' bones may have been found in a box (effectively killing Christianity), this should be interesting.
Just so you know: I do not believe that Jesus' bones are in that box.
More snow on the ground means a late start at school for the girls today. I hope Today doesn't bust The Secret wide open while I'm at the bus stop.
Just so you know: I do not believe that Jesus' bones are in that box.
More snow on the ground means a late start at school for the girls today. I hope Today doesn't bust The Secret wide open while I'm at the bus stop.
Monday, February 26, 2007
I Never Miss the Oscars
I loved seeing Martin Scorcese win last night, especially since he was born in Flushing. I thought Ellen DeGeneres struck a perfect pitch; she knows how to make people laugh without being mean.
I rooted for Helen Mirren (even though I haven't seen The Queen yet), but I'm not sure what she meant when she held up her statuette and shouted, "This is the Queen!" Did she mean, "This is for the Queen!"? It doesn't matter; she's gorgeous, and I loved the song and dance number with the little tribute to her by Will Ferrell, Jack Black, and John C. Reilly.
Meryl Streep was the picture of cool, as usual. Forrest Whitaker's speech blew me away. He's not classically good looking, but he's strangely attractive. Kate Winslet stopped traffic.
Nicole Kidman looked svelte and elegant in her red dress, but she could barely move her face with all the stuff she's had injected into it. I hate to see beautiful young women screwing with their faces. Come to think of it, I hate to see beautiful old ones screwing with their faces, too.
Does Jack Nicholson suffer from cataracts? It's been a long time since I've seen him photographed without dark glasses.
If you're tired all the time, you can feel better.
I rooted for Helen Mirren (even though I haven't seen The Queen yet), but I'm not sure what she meant when she held up her statuette and shouted, "This is the Queen!" Did she mean, "This is for the Queen!"? It doesn't matter; she's gorgeous, and I loved the song and dance number with the little tribute to her by Will Ferrell, Jack Black, and John C. Reilly.
Meryl Streep was the picture of cool, as usual. Forrest Whitaker's speech blew me away. He's not classically good looking, but he's strangely attractive. Kate Winslet stopped traffic.
Nicole Kidman looked svelte and elegant in her red dress, but she could barely move her face with all the stuff she's had injected into it. I hate to see beautiful young women screwing with their faces. Come to think of it, I hate to see beautiful old ones screwing with their faces, too.
Does Jack Nicholson suffer from cataracts? It's been a long time since I've seen him photographed without dark glasses.
If you're tired all the time, you can feel better.
Sunday, February 25, 2007
Fashions of the Times
Confidence is being able to to riffle through The New York Times Style Magazine (in today's paper), look at the ads with the pin-thin people propped up on high heels, and say to yourself, "I don't look like that, I'm never going to look like that, and I don't want to look like that, either."
Tonight is Oscar night. I never miss the Oscars, mostly because I like to see what people are wearing.
Have your cake and eat it, too.
Tonight is Oscar night. I never miss the Oscars, mostly because I like to see what people are wearing.
Have your cake and eat it, too.
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
How to Win Him Back
If you've been dating a guy, and he's suddenly busy, his calls have dropped off, and he's just not giving you the attention he used to, it's upsetting. It's especially so if he came on strong at first when you weren't even particularly interested in him.
All of a sudden, he's acting as if he's doing you a big favor.
How do you get his attention again? First off, determine if you really and truly want his attention (you may be thinking, 'Of course I do,' but please slow down and think this over).
If you decide he's worth it, here's what you must do: Back away slowly.
This is not for sissies, but trust me, it's the only way you're ever going to get him back. It takes discipline. It takes self-love. And you must do it.
This means you do not, under any circumstances, email the dude. You don't call him to see how he's doing. You don't come up with a scheme to score tickets to opening day of his favorite baseball team and casually invite him to go with you (I've tried this scheme; the tickets were for The Stones. The guy in question took me up on the offer all right, but that was pretty much the last time I saw him).
The key is to keep busy (no waiting for the phone to ring, please). Let him come after you. Yes, I know you've heard this before. Hey, I'd heard it before, but it didn't work until I actually gave it a try. If the guy likes you, he'll miss you. If he doesn't, nothing you say or do or wear is going to change that.
Mimi Tanner wrote two excellent books that give you the nuts and bolts on dealing with men. Check them out: Secrets of Flirting and Calling Men.
All of a sudden, he's acting as if he's doing you a big favor.
How do you get his attention again? First off, determine if you really and truly want his attention (you may be thinking, 'Of course I do,' but please slow down and think this over).
If you decide he's worth it, here's what you must do: Back away slowly.
This is not for sissies, but trust me, it's the only way you're ever going to get him back. It takes discipline. It takes self-love. And you must do it.
This means you do not, under any circumstances, email the dude. You don't call him to see how he's doing. You don't come up with a scheme to score tickets to opening day of his favorite baseball team and casually invite him to go with you (I've tried this scheme; the tickets were for The Stones. The guy in question took me up on the offer all right, but that was pretty much the last time I saw him).
The key is to keep busy (no waiting for the phone to ring, please). Let him come after you. Yes, I know you've heard this before. Hey, I'd heard it before, but it didn't work until I actually gave it a try. If the guy likes you, he'll miss you. If he doesn't, nothing you say or do or wear is going to change that.
Mimi Tanner wrote two excellent books that give you the nuts and bolts on dealing with men. Check them out: Secrets of Flirting and Calling Men.
Love and the Power of Positive Thinking
Old Dr. Peale was a proponent of The Law of Attraction. In this excerpt from his book, The Power of Positive Thinking
, he shows how one woman used it after her husband asked for a divorce:
"She had conquered herself to the extent of being able to receive this request with calmness. She simply replied that she was willing if he wanted it, but suggested a deferral of the decision for ninety days on the ground that divorce is so final. 'If at the end of ninety days you still feel that you want a divorce, I will co-operate with you.' She said this calmly. He gave her a quizzical look, for he had expected an outburst.
Night after night he went out, and night after night she sat at home, but she pictured him as seated in his old chair. He was not in the chair, but she painted an image of him there comfortably reading as in the old days. She visualized him puttering around the house, painting and fixing things as he had formerly done. She even pictured him drying the dishes as he did when they were first married. She visualized the two of them playing golf together and taking hikes as they once did.
She maintained this picture with steady faith, and one night there he actually sat in his old chair. She looked twice to be sure that it was the reality rather than the picturization, but perhaps a picturization is a reality, for at any rate the actual man was there. Occasionally, he would be gone but more and more nights he sat in his chair. Then he began to read to her as in the old days. Then one sunny Saturday afternoon he asked, 'What do you say to a game of golf?'
The days went by pleasantly until she realized that the ninetieth day had arrived, so that evening she said quietly, 'Bill, this is the ninetieth day.'
'What do you mean,' he asked, puzzled, 'the ninetieth day?'
'Why, don't you remember? We agreed to wait ninety days to settle that divorce matter and this is the day.'
He looked at her for a moment, then hidden behind his paper turned a page, saying, 'Don't be silly. I couldn't possibly get along without you. Where did you get the idea I was going to leave you?'"
, he shows how one woman used it after her husband asked for a divorce:"She had conquered herself to the extent of being able to receive this request with calmness. She simply replied that she was willing if he wanted it, but suggested a deferral of the decision for ninety days on the ground that divorce is so final. 'If at the end of ninety days you still feel that you want a divorce, I will co-operate with you.' She said this calmly. He gave her a quizzical look, for he had expected an outburst.
Night after night he went out, and night after night she sat at home, but she pictured him as seated in his old chair. He was not in the chair, but she painted an image of him there comfortably reading as in the old days. She visualized him puttering around the house, painting and fixing things as he had formerly done. She even pictured him drying the dishes as he did when they were first married. She visualized the two of them playing golf together and taking hikes as they once did.
She maintained this picture with steady faith, and one night there he actually sat in his old chair. She looked twice to be sure that it was the reality rather than the picturization, but perhaps a picturization is a reality, for at any rate the actual man was there. Occasionally, he would be gone but more and more nights he sat in his chair. Then he began to read to her as in the old days. Then one sunny Saturday afternoon he asked, 'What do you say to a game of golf?'
The days went by pleasantly until she realized that the ninetieth day had arrived, so that evening she said quietly, 'Bill, this is the ninetieth day.'
'What do you mean,' he asked, puzzled, 'the ninetieth day?'
'Why, don't you remember? We agreed to wait ninety days to settle that divorce matter and this is the day.'
He looked at her for a moment, then hidden behind his paper turned a page, saying, 'Don't be silly. I couldn't possibly get along without you. Where did you get the idea I was going to leave you?'"
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Tuesday, February 20, 2007
Dakota Fanning and Me
The March issue of Vanity Fair includes my letter to the editor regarding a pictorial of the 12-year-old actress.
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