tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post8311217242789485920..comments2023-07-03T05:28:29.391-04:00Comments on Dating Advice (Almost) Daily: She Changed Her Thinking and Attracted a Good ManTerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-11970954914576121792008-02-29T16:38:00.000-05:002008-02-29T16:38:00.000-05:00Just received this comment from a reader who asked...<I>Just received this comment from a reader who asked me to post it for her:</I><BR/><BR/>Dear Terry,<BR/><BR/>I tried to publish a comment to this wonderful email on your page but didn't succeed to, although I'm a Google user.<BR/><BR/>So here is my testimony (please feel free to publish it should you wish to do so):<BR/><BR/>This is wonderful! I am truly happy for C. <BR/><BR/>I had a similar experience, having waited over two years for a man who fed me a lot of crap and gave me no more than two hours of his presence at one sitting, about six times over the whole period !). <BR/><BR/>I knew I had nothing to expect from this "relationship" but I just couldn't let go of the hope that things would get better some day. <BR/><BR/>On Twelfth Night, I had an Epiphany ;-) and proceeded to google some of the pseudos he used on the Internet. I had never allowed myself to do it before because I felt it would be like betraying him and invading his privacy (!). <BR/><BR/>Well, my efforts were amply rewarded. I discovered that he had been consistantly lying to me and was not even living in the part of France he had me believe he was (his way to explain the fact that he couldn't see me very often). <BR/><BR/>I was in deep shock for one day but then a huge relief came over me and I felt free to put an end to this miserable mockery of a relationship which was leading me nowhere fast.<BR/><BR/>All it took was reading at least twice a day (first thing in the morning & last thing at night):"I am happily enjoying a lasting, passionate, monogamous relationship", "I am happily dating a gorgeous person who loves me, trusts me, and supports my dreams", "I deeply and completely love and accept myself". Rings a bell? ;-) <BR/><BR/>Thank you SO much,Terry. Your powerful words gave me the strength to move on from this fatal liaison. I have read your delightful ebook too. <BR/><BR/>Like C., I did start seeing a new man soon after the break-up (on Valentine's day!). And he gave me nine beautiful red roses. No man had cared enough for me to wish me a happy Valentine since... 1978! (In France, Valentine's Day is only for lovers.)<BR/><BR/>This new man is someone I had met on a dating site but never chose to see as a potential date because I was hooked on the creepy one. And then, all of a sudden, my eyes opened and I realized that he had lots of the qualities I was looking for in a man. Like C., I don't know where this new relationship will lead me, but I do agree twith her hat there is plenty more fish in the sea should things not work out the way I wish with my new boyfriend. Like her, I have refused to see him without a reasonable prior notice. Now, he makes plans to see me. I never call or send him messages first either. I let him do so. He seems so happy to oblige. A man in love will call, no matter what. Even a very busy man like my new boyfriend is, will always find a few minutes to speak to the woman he loves.<BR/><BR/>Recently, I let him speak to my voice mails for a whole day because he had said a few things I didn't care for. It looks like men sometimes try to test us to see "how far they can go too far". Well, I think he learned his lesson quite well (without my having to explain my attitude). <BR/><BR/>Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart, Terry. You are a blessing to all women (and the men who love them ;-).<BR/><BR/>Best regards,<BR/><BR/>CharlotteTerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.com