tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post8020456863275074528..comments2023-07-03T05:28:29.391-04:00Comments on Dating Advice (Almost) Daily: He Loves Her, But She's AbusiveTerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-58209201981403941182009-11-12T08:22:37.542-05:002009-11-12T08:22:37.542-05:00I understand that this is a real problem. A former...I understand that this is a real problem. A former Gf of mine who was a runner with strong legs use to use that exactr same hold to get her way. Like when she didnt want me to go out with the guys she put me into her leg hold, locked her ankles and kept me there. She didnt hurt me but I couldnt get out. She did this a lot even referred to it as being in her legjail. I too was too embarassed to tell anyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-78192334067398018632008-12-12T20:42:00.000-05:002008-12-12T20:42:00.000-05:00Anon,No that's not the way it is in our relationsh...Anon,<BR/>No that's not the way it is in our relationship. We have never play wrestled around like that.<BR/>And this is more than play wrestling because I have told her that she squeezes too hard and that I can't breathe. I've told her that I don't enjoy that. And she has seen me failing to pry her legs apart.<BR/><BR/>It's not just playing around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-43900592836872102862008-12-10T17:23:00.000-05:002008-12-10T17:23:00.000-05:00I think too much is being made of this.Frustrated,...I think too much is being made of this.<BR/>Frustrated, maybe she just considers it "playing around". I dated a girl when I was in high school that just loved to wrestle around. But I would encourage it by playing along with it. Trust me, I know what you are saying about stronger legs. This girl was a gymnast. She would get them around me at times and try to squish me as well. If I could stay away from them I was fine :)<BR/>Maybe it's just that. Maybe it's her way of playing around. And because that 'tension' is there even when you're just playing around... maybe it surfaces when you're being more intimate. <BR/>Also, some guys would kill for a girl taller and stronger.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-881797766324505762008-12-10T05:35:00.000-05:002008-12-10T05:35:00.000-05:00How would you know what is better out there for yo...How would you know what is better out there for you if you are stuck in an abusive realtionship? People get divorce every other day, so breaking up is not that difficult. You got to raise the bar and get a girl who cares about your own needs as much as you care about hers. Haven't you seen that movie 'Enough' starring Jennifer Lopez? Well, enough is enough!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-29850584330763092882008-12-09T14:36:00.000-05:002008-12-09T14:36:00.000-05:00Terry - your advice is on target! I knew a guy in ...Terry - your advice is on target! I knew a guy in my 20's whose girlfriends was amazingly beautiful - but she was also violent and nuts. He was embarrassed to dump her because she'd beat him and he wouldn't hit her back. I think this stuff goes on more than we may think. To the men or women reading this post, if you are being abused - honor yourself and move on. There are better partners out there who want to love you the way you deserve to be loved.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-24317914362842850082008-12-08T21:16:00.000-05:002008-12-08T21:16:00.000-05:00Wow. I feel kind of honored that you would put my...Wow. I feel kind of honored that you would put my question up as a post. <BR/>I really appreciate your insight on it. It does make it seem easier to deal with. <BR/><BR/>I feel kind of bad though. She does have a really considerate and understanding side. I'm a lucky guy to be with her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com