tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post7597289724616233164..comments2023-07-03T05:28:29.391-04:00Comments on Dating Advice (Almost) Daily: More About Settling for Mr. Good EnoughTerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-60219626581129940542008-02-29T15:40:00.000-05:002008-02-29T15:40:00.000-05:00Hi, Star-If anybody's confused you, it's me, not "...Hi, Star-<BR/><BR/>If anybody's confused you, it's me, not "Curious," who asked my opinion on settling.<BR/><BR/>Sorry about that.<BR/><BR/>I can sum up the point of my rambling, overly long post like this: "Don't settle for anybody who won't make you happy, but keep in mind that nobody on the planet is perfect."<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, some women (and men!) find fault with potentially great partners because they fear commitment. <BR/><BR/>People have different values, and you must settle for nothing less than a man who shares yours.<BR/><BR/>Sorry if I gave the impression that anyone should ever settle for less than they deserve. While nobody's perfect, there is a man who's perfect for me (and I found him), and there's a man who's perfect for <I>you</I>.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260512756626485548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9378354.post-49723624509221938522008-02-29T12:10:00.000-05:002008-02-29T12:10:00.000-05:00Greetings Terry & Readers, To me, the feelings o...Greetings Terry & Readers,<BR/><BR/> To me, the feelings of this reader & the reason(s) she submitted the article, are a bit confusing. I'm sure you welcome all types of opinions, but it seems she's playing DEVIL'S ADVOCATE. Most of the ideas suggested in the 'Mr. Good Enough' article , aren't AT ALL congruent w/the optimistic, reality-check, warm advice you give. <BR/> If this manner of changed thinking helped this reader, then more power to her! What's scary about this viewpoint is that, if she's willing to compromise with her life partner (spouse), how many other areas in her life, will she do the same? <BR/> Marriage should be one of your most cherished & revered relationships in your life. While I'm not saying that another person defines you, however who you've committed your life to & the quality of your relationship with them, speaks loudly of your definition of life...YOUR LIFE & how much you do (or DON'T) value it! Once married, most experiences & how you experience them (good or bad), is usually a by-product of your marriage/life. With that type of "stinking thinking", she's sure to live the rest of her life very unfulfilled. All things should be decided through wisdom & lived from your heart, because your heart doesn't lie - so don't ignore it. It sounds as if this 'Curious' reader is growing impatient & obviously doubtful of the possibility of finding her true 'Mr. Right'. What will she settle for, next? And why does she read your advice? Obviously, not because she's heeding it!<BR/><BR/>Star<BR/>"...living to be an asset, not a liability"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com